Clearly I need a blogging for dummies book as we as a simple guide to how to write a book self published. I am going to raise money for the publishing on indegigo. Alexia deserves this and I need this to heal.
Summary
It will be a quick summary of her life, stories anecdotes of family, siblings . You know the stories that loved to be shared around the thanksgiving table to show the world out connectedness.
Then to describe both the physical of what she went thru the tragedy for her and the horror it wreaked on our family and the strength and grace that shined thru as "Alexia".
Sad, poignant and funny tales of her. Life in the and out of the hospital. Her trying to grasp what was hipping to her young body as it gave way slowly to a non life threatening disease
Some of her shining moments as we go thru her war stories from fact point Drs point and her point of view. Than we try to compile all the new information on a rare disease that no one had answers for. So we can make an informed section for out daughter
Add to that that we have twin babies at home. Very little family support. No sleep since she was never once left alone in the hospital discussing dr options on phone and telephone and voice conferencing latterly trading home life and hospital life at midnight with a quick update on her meds and status and dr rotation. We went thru hundreds of residents.
To a very rough and rewarding comeback of our Alexia after 6 mos of hard wok at Spaulding
Only to find out a year later the real horrors would begin. Constant apathy, incontinence, loss if focus, headaches - damn a trip into ER Boston for a spinal tap and 9 times out of 10 a surgical replacement of her shunt running from base if skull to abdomen.
A few months reprieve and here we go again into the hospital. Retold stories and old friends with nurses knowing the routine so well we felt we lived there - so sad.
Almost a year of relief. Thinking we are home free for her teen years only to see a significant change the summer after 16 bday. She and I took a vacation of a lifetime to WA state to see long list family friends. I could tell she was happy to be there, but not her jovial self.
A few more trips into hospital for more surgical shunt replacements. Then May 13th she turns 17. On may14 she gets admitted to hospital for the last time. She was fighting for her life the biggest fight yet. It this time was difference. Difference in her energy. She wasn't perky with staff and didn't bounce back from surgery the same way
Fear crept inside of me as I tried to keep it at bay. Was she getting tired of the stress. Was her body getting worn out ?
Well the beginning of October showed us what was in store for our daughter. She slipped into a coma and immediately needs life support. She left our safe home on 9 North and head for ICU stat.
Many debates tests ad crying tantrums later we decided that she needed to pass in peace, the way she would have wanted.
She was the brightest of stars at that hospitals always a compliment to make you feel better. Dance parties I. The rooms when activity was okay. The light in our dark life.
We left ICU, went back to our friends at 9 north and went into a special bereavement room. We decorated with her twilight posters, her art work and her poetry. And we waited. And waited meanwhile it was a living wake 2 whole journals of thoughts, prayers and remembrances of a child who made a large difference in her short stay in this world. And then on October 16th almost 5 months to the day for that stay and almost exactly 9 years to the day of her first grand mal seizure - she was gone
The most giving and sweetest soul I will ever meet taken from our arms after a 9 year battle with a non life threatening illness she died
A small piece of me died with her on that same day and I'm still trying to find my way